Rico Rossi is making quite the splash his first month in the country music genre.  View music video now!

Rico Rossi lives in Alaska and has spent the last few years in the Hip Hop genre. Originally from the Bay area in California, Rico took a trip to Alaska and fell in love with everything about Alaska. The single Dad relocated to Alaska for his 8 month old son who is half Alaskan Native Eskimo.   
 
After spending some time in the hip hop genre, Rico has had an awakening, both spiritually and musically. He wants to talk about this awakening and will. He has now released two songs in the country genre with “City 2 the Country,” and “Moonshine under the Midnight Sun.”
 
ITS Promotions was introduced to Rico through his music and really liked what he was doing. “City 2 The Country,” is the perfect transition song at this time in Rico’s journey. The song tells the story of an urban girl who visits the country and falls in love, not only with the land but with the country guy. Yes, the guy gets the girl. Rico stars in this music video filmed at an actual farm in California. He intends on releasing a single a month and has just released “Moonshine under the Midnight Sun,” featuring Alaska’s own beloved musician, Jerry Wessling.  MOONSHINE GARNERED over 90 Thousand plays the first 3 days it was released.
 
This multi talented artist has much to give to the country genre and we can’t wait to share what he will be doing next. In the meantime, check out “City 2 the Country,” and “Moonshine Under the Midnight Sun.” You won’t be disappointed.
 
Learn more about Rico Rossi and follow him at platforms like Apple, Facebook, Spotify, and YouTube.
 

Normally this is a blog that people email me questions and life issues and problems so I can hand out advice.  Today, I want to use it for something a little different. 

Maurice who has portrayed Sonny on General Hospital since 1987 has an internet show called STATE OF MIND.  This show is one of the best things on YouTube.  Maurice explores, shares and talks about his journey with Bi-Polar with the world. In addition, he invites guests on his show that have experienced mental health issues. What is different about this talk show as opposed to other talk shows is that Maurice is still on his journey. He is still living with, dealing with and discovering ways to deal with his own bi-polar. You can actually see Maurice have light bulb moments on his show. 

Maurice also interviews other actors and actresses that have experienced mental health issues.  This show is a high light of this Lady Bug's Sundays and it is about time I shared that with you.  STATE OF MIND is something that needs to be experienced. I can tell you about it but it won't do the show justice. If you like authentic talk, real talk, helpful talk with none of the bull or hyperbole, State of Mind is for you.  If you know anybody that is going through some mental health challenges, State of Mind is for them.  SUBSCRIBE TO STATE OF MIND by clicking this link and hitting the subscribe button.  It's the very best Advice Lady Bug has for you today. 
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Dear Ladybug: It is the middle of June of 2021, more than 600 thousand American are dead as a result of Covid.  It is being reported that about 1 million people a day are getting vaccinated.  That is great. Wish it were more but at least vaccinations are still occurring.  I have been double vaccinated but still plan to wear a mask out as I live in a red state. You see in the red states, many still believe that Covid-19 was either a hoax or not as bad as the media made it sound.  My question to you is how do I handle the looks and attitudes I will come up against when I go out in public with my mask on?  Signed: Masked in the South until they get vaccinated or die. 

Dear Ladybug:  I am sick and tired of coloring my hair.  When the pandemic hit, I figured it was the perfect time to transition from coloring my hair to going naturally gray. The last time I colored my hair was February of 2020.  

There have been a few family members that don't like it and want me to color it again. 

I am 14 months into the process and there are times I love it and times I can't stand it.  What is your best advice for women like me that  are sitting on the fence about continuing their journey with their natural hair color or to go back to chemically enhancing their shade? 

Signed, Color me Gray
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Dear Color me Gray:

Congratulations on 14 months. That takes courage and the simple truth is, you are being your true self.  The only person that matters in this journey is you. If the reasons why you started this journey are still there, then why would you go back to coloring? 

My advice is ignore the naysayers and do your own thing. I think women that are being their true-selves have a lightness and beauty that shines from the inside out.  Ask yourself, what would Emmy Lou Harris do?   She was the very first lady of country music to go natural. If you ask me, more should do it. Is there anybody that believes that Reba is still a red head?  I don't think so.  

Good luck on your continued journey.  When it is all said and done, one day you will look in the mirror and totally embrace the real you. When YOU do that, so will everybody around you. 
Love, 
Ladybug

Dear Ladybug:  I voted for Biden and my husband voted for Trump.  For 4 years I had to listen to my husband defend that madman.  I normally stay out of politics.  However, I could not vote for Trump as he is freaking crazy.  I voted for Joe because I felt we needed decency back in the White House. My husband keeps asking me who I voted for. I told him my vote is private. 

I am afraid to admit that I voted for Biden as my husband seems very angry right now. He is totally with Trump and walks around the house yelling about Trump getting ripped off by the Dems.  

What should I do Ladybug?

Dear Voted for Biden:  Wow, you are living in a walking talking wide awake nightmare.  If you knew that your husband was a bit of a racist before the election and you married him anyhow, you should be able to get through this. However, if this behavior is new, you may have to think long and hard if you want to remain in this marriage.  The Trump presidency brought out a lot of closet racists, bigots and worse.  

If you are afraid your husband may get violent with you if you admit to voting for Biden, you probably shouldn't be living in the same house with him. Trump being in the White House has broken marriages, families and divided this country.  There were problems before but now they are magnified and much more volatile.  

Ask yourself if you fear for your safety. If you do, you should make other living arrangements until your husband can get past his anger.  I hope this helped.  We have never seen anything like this before so it is hard to advise anybody in this situation. 

Dear Ladybug:  My daughter is a tenant with a yearly lease.  She pays her rent on time. She rents a house from an absentee landlord.  Her landlord lives in a nearby town. The other day her landlord pulled up and stuck a Trump sign in her yard.  My daughter is beside herself. She is a Biden supporter and has considered putting a Biden sign next to the Trump sign.  However, she is afraid it will cause an issue with her landlord.  What would you advise her to do?  

yours, Trumped up yard in distress

Dear Distress:  While the ladybug does not want to be accused of being political, after much consideration, I have decided to respond to this question because I feel your daughters rights as a tenant have been violated. I consider this more a legal matter.  

When we sign a lease with a landlord, we have certain rights. One of those rights is something called "Peaceful Enjoyment."  If the Trump sign is causing your daughter distress, then this is not "Peaceful Enjoyment."  The fact is that while your daughter is a tenant in good standing with her rent being paid on time, the landlord has no right to do anything on the property inside or out without prior notice. Even with prior notice, that visit or activity should be to improve the premises or complete necessary repairs. 

She could take the landlord to court for violating her "peaceful enjoyment."  Many landlords think they can do what they want because they are the property owner. That is not the case. However, by the time you got to court, the election would probably be over and the issue will have been self resolved. 

I understand that your daughter is worried about having issues with this Trump supporter landlord.  Many Trump supporters tend to be fanatics and aggressive.  On top of that, I have to let you two know it is illegal for anyone to remove, or destroy political signs which can result in a $2,500 fine.  

The best thing that could happen is if the sign just disappeared in the dark of night.  I could never suggest that your daughter make that happen but it would be great Karma at work. Then if the landlord asked what happened to the sign, your daughter would have clear  deniability.

If the sign does goes missing, I would not put up a Biden sign as you don't want to alert the landlord to the fact that your daughter is a Biden supporter.  She would then have reason to believe your daughter was behind the sign disappearance and we would never want that to happen.  

Your daughter may want to remind the landlord that he or she should give 24 hour notice before visiting the property as stated in the lease.

In any event, the landlord may get tired of bringing new signs and stay away until the first of each month. Tell her to keep her chin up. Soon the election will be over and this signage stress issue will be in her review mirror. 

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Dear Bug, I am in a dilemma.... I own a farm and own it free and clear. However, the main way I pay for our animal’s feed and care and other bills is by working my “main” job which I have had for 18 years. This is the dilemma- I am very worried about losing my job due to the pandemic and loss of income for the business. I could not easily replace this job and/or income. I could POSSIBLY replace that income if I modified my farm for weddings and other events but I would need to borrow about 75k to do it the right way. My dilemma is should I risk my home to try and improve the farm (by getting a loan) or risk losing everything else if I lose my day job? I cannot figure out the right thing to do?

Dear Betting the Farm:  The first thing I would do while still employed is take out a LINE OF CREDIT on the farm.  This way you will have the funds available for improvements.  If you end up not needing it, no harm or debt is incurred. 

Keep in mind that the pandemic is busy putting small businesses out of business.  The reality may be that starting a new small business from your farm will not be possible for a long time. 

You may have to make the sad decision if you lose your job that the line of credit may have to be used to get the property ready for sale.  

While selling your farm may be the last thing you want to do,  you could always buy a smaller farm or house and still be able to live your dream, just on a smaller more manageable scale.  All is not lost.  The equity you have in your home is a lifeline many don't have. 

Sometimes if we look at all we have instead of what we might lose, it makes the painful decision less painful to complete.  Please let us know what you decide and how it all works out.  


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Dear Ladybug, My husband and I have been married for 19 years and as far as I know we have been faithful to each other. However, now my husband says he is bored and wants us to start being “swingers” having threesomes or sex with another couple with us. I am not ok with at all but don’t want to lose my husband. What do I do?

Dear Wife of 19 years:  This actually happens in many marriages.  Relationships might fall into a rut and some partners can become bored.  If you are not comfortable with threesomes or becoming a swinger, you may want to try spicing things up in other ways. Some things you can do are:

1. Play dress up-role playing;
2. Play "Picked Up by a Stranger" game with one another;  Go to a bar, pretend you don't know each other and pick up or allow yourself to be picked up by your spouse after some flrting;
3. Initiate sex in places you wouldn't normally;
4. Send sexy emails and texts to your spouse;
5. Stick little love notes in pants and shirt pockets.
6. Take a ride to an ADULT TOYS store and pick up some toys.

These things can spice up a love life.  If you have already done some or all of the above, and he still wants to bring people into your relationship, you may have a decision to make about your future together.  If you are against 3-somes or swinging and he won't let it go, it might be time for you to go forward without him.  I hope this helps. Please let us know what happens. 

​yours, Ladybug

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You Dear Ladybug, I have a 19 year old son who has been with his girlfriend for over a year now. I personally loved her at the beginning and was so happy for my son. She presented as a sweet, kind, caring and respectful young lady. My son used to be an independent, strong, confident young man, and now he is the shell of the young man he used to be. His confidence is shattered because of her constant belittling and it's heartbreaking to hear him on the phone begging her not to leave him because he upset her by working a scheduled shift at work with female coworkers. She is very jealous of all other females and constantly accuses him of looking or smiling in the direction of the opposite sex. Mind you, she is his first girlfriend and he has never cheated on her. She threw such a fit about him having friends that he cut them all off for her and literally has her, his coworkers and his family in his life now. He has spent thousands of dollars showering her with gifts and pretty much pays for everything they do and everywhere they go. She works and has her own money but her money is hers and his money is theirs. We have tried to talk to him but he gets very defensive and we don't want to drive him further away. She's been pressuring him to move into an apartment with her and that's the only thing he hasn't given in on yet. We're at a loss for what to do other than just being there for him. What advice can you offer? Sincerely, A Desperate Mother

Dear Desperate Mother:  Unfortunately, it sounds like your son is in an abusive relationship.  There are many ways that people can be abused and be an abuser.  It sounds like your sons girlfriend is emotionally and mentally abusive.  Another unfortunate aspect of this type of relationship is that the abused has to realize this for themselves and want to get out.  

You can point out these types of situations like an abuser isolating their victims from family and friends is one big red flag.  

If there is anyway you can try and cut down on the amount of money your son is spending?  Do something like tell him to put that money he is using for expensive gifts into a savings account so he can take his girlfriend on a fabulous trip next year.  That might help to hold onto some of those funds and hopefully a break up will occur before there is damage.

Hang in there Desperate Mom. These type of people always show their hand.  Try and hold onto the fact that you raised a smart, good son.  If this is his first serious relationship, it may take a while for him to let go but he will let go and move onto better and healthier things.  

Your instincts are right.  If you try and break them apart he will run to her.  However, sometimes we need to hit rock bottom before we can see what everyone else sees.  If you see no change in the way things are going, you might consider telling him you can't watch him being used anymore and he needs to go live with this person.  Sometimes living with a person full time is a real eye opener. That is just something to consider however it is a drastic measure.  Keep in mind the opposite can be true and pushing them together may just rip them apart. 

Thanks for sharing your question.  Please let us know if you were able to get him to hold onto some funds via a savings account and update us if and when there is a break up.    

​yours, Ladybug

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