Husband asking for more than I might be able to give

Dear Ladybug, My husband and I have been married for 19 years and as far as I know we have been faithful to each other. However, now my husband says he is bored and wants us to start being “swingers” having threesomes or sex with another couple with us. I am not ok with at all but don’t want to lose my husband. What do I do?

Dear Wife of 19 years:  This actually happens in many marriages.  Relationships might fall into a rut and some partners can become bored.  If you are not comfortable with threesomes or becoming a swinger, you may want to try spicing things up in other ways. Some things you can do are:

1. Play dress up-role playing;
2. Play "Picked Up by a Stranger" game with one another;  Go to a bar, pretend you don't know each other and pick up or allow yourself to be picked up by your spouse after some flrting;
3. Initiate sex in places you wouldn't normally;
4. Send sexy emails and texts to your spouse;
5. Stick little love notes in pants and shirt pockets.
6. Take a ride to an ADULT TOYS store and pick up some toys.

These things can spice up a love life.  If you have already done some or all of the above, and he still wants to bring people into your relationship, you may have a decision to make about your future together.  If you are against 3-somes or swinging and he won't let it go, it might be time for you to go forward without him.  I hope this helps. Please let us know what happens. 

​yours, Ladybug

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